A Letter to My Son

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With our due date nearly a week away, I wanted to open up about something that’s big on my heart. I know God is calling me to write a book on the topic of worriers vs. warriors. 

I have always known I wanted to write a book, but I never in a million years imagined it would evolve around the topic of parenting and kids, especially considering some would argue I am not officially a mom until my baby gets here. 

However, I kind of love the fact that this revelation came to me in a season before I even became pregnant, because it serves as a reminder to be humble and know that this is God’s work through me, not something I can just do in my own effort.

I do not know when this book will come to fruition, but I do know that I was supposed to write a letter to the baby in my belly to serve as the intro to this book. 

I hope this letter inspires parents to be mindful of how their own behaviors influence your children, and I pray courage and bravery over every single parent in hopes that we are consciously working to raise warriors in a worrier world.  

“My dearest S,

As I write this, you are less than three weeks away from your due date. You are safe, comfortable, and wholy innocent in my belly. You know no pain, no heartbreak, no evil, and you have absolutely zero worries. Part of me wishes I could just keep you safe in there forever; but a bigger, more daring, more adventurous part of me is excited beyond measure to watch you grow into who God intended you to be: a warrior.

You cannot be both a warrior and a worrier, son. And in a world that seems to progressively become more dangerous and divided, many people are worry stricken, some in a state of utter paralysis. Anxiety, depression, and other mental illnesses are increasingly creeping into our population more than ever before, and we are in desperate need of warriors.

A worrier will allow fear to cripple him and keep him from becoming all he is meant to be. A warrior is different. It’s not that he doesn’t feel fear. The warrior still feels the fear, but he doesn’t allow it to stop him from moving forward, maximizing his potential, and fulfilling his calling. When confronted with worry, doubt, and adversity, the warrior sees beyond his circumstances and presses on.

A warrior implies there is a war, which implies there’s something worth fighting for. Well, a very real war exists, son, and we have a very real enemy, and with each new diagnosis of anxiety and depression or act of evil, he wins a battle. Our enemy is the lover of evil and the thief of hope, joy, and peace. And even though we know we win the war in the end, we have a lifetime of battles to fight — the destruction of evil and the restoration and redemption of hope, joy, and peace for every person are worth fighting for.

I wholeheartedly believe whether someone adopts the mindset of a worrier or a warrior starts with the parents. And while God has called me to write this book as an immediate call to action for parents, it is also my personal promise to you and any siblings that follow you.

I promise to always search to be better within myself and consistently work toward becoming someone I would be proud of you to emulate.

I promise to show humility and be transparent with my past, current and future mistakes, in hopes that you will adopt the attitude of humility and maybe even learn from my mistakes before you have to make them yourself.

With that said, I promise to love you through any mistakes, hurts, or regrets that come your way.

But I also promise to discipline you when necessary — never in a way that condemns you, but rather in a way that convicts your heart and guides you down the right path.

I promise to instill in you that your sense of worth comes from God alone and never how you played in your football game, whether you got all As on your report card, or by any other measure of how well you do something. 

I promise to never punish you if you get called to the principal’s office for standing up for kids who are bullied. I might even buy you ice cream if you knock the bully out.

I promise to never make you earn my love — it is freely yours.

I promise to let you take risks, preferably calculated ones, even if they raise worries within myself.

I promise you teach you that Jesus was not and is not safe, nor should you be.

I hope that between God, your dad, and me, we raise you to be a warrior in this worrier world.

Love you always,

Mom”